@marina this isn't just some random dickwad, this dickwad is @mixmix's dad. That is why I think it's worth mediating, for better or worse, he's basically family. @substack is addressing future ssb members, but I'm interesting in addressing the people who are currently here. Because one time you told me that one of the challenges facing feminism is that the default response my men is to be skeptical of whatever a woman says, but believe things that other men say. This was surprising at the time, but I soon realized you where right. So you told me that it wasn't enough for women to argue for feminism - men like me had to as well, because other men would actually listen to me. That is what I'm trying to do here.
@bob as you can see, my friends are a bit upset by this, and now you are connected to and socialising in the same space with them. I can certainly vouch that they are highly intelligent and there are many reasons they believe what they do. Could you please take that into consideration? they are not "some segments of some societies" they are a segment of this society.
I think it's worth bridging between these viewpoints, because I realized that my own views have changed significantly over the years. If my 18 year old self came on here and what I believed at the time, I'd have gotten blasted by current @substack too, and that would be fair enough, but that probably would have galvanized my views not changed them. So I believe that if my views can change, other's views can change too.