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Some context that's missing for most of you - @bob is my dad, I invited him here to try and keep in touch with him more.
Over the past 2 weeks we've been having a fairly intense conversation about our perspectives of society and feminism. (All in private thread here in scuttlebutt). It's been hard, but it's also been some of the most personal communication I've had with him. We agree on a lot of things, and we've also found it hard to find language to reconcile our views.

He's got in touch with me and said that he's happy to not be here if that's for the best.

I want this to be a safe space for gender diverse people (or any people really), and I want my father to be part of my community. Is this an either/ or situation? Do the rest of you have feminist open-source solarpunk parents already? Do you ignore these difficult conversations, or do you compartmentalise different conversations for different spaces?

I feel angry sad upset. Confused.
Glad to be discussing shit that's real for us, and is important to figure out how to interact with?

I can see and empathise with most of the sides of this. I think it's totally reasonable to want to have polarising boundaries and non-negotiably assert them. I can appreciate that some people live in totally different contexts, and not be exposed to certain ideas. Are we mistaken to try and mix different people?

For the record, I don't know who Larry Summers is. I'm guessing it was some internet drama where an older dude said something old-fashined and offensive. I tend to listen to more local news.

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@dangerousbeans
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@IBob I like your posts, please keep posting.

I feel this over policing of language and hypersensitivity isn't healthy and isn't progressing anything, it's certainly not a view shared by everyone on the scuttleverse

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I really want @IBob to feel welcome in this community.

Do the rest of you have feminist open-source solarpunk parents already?

Yes, this! I can't help but wonder how different my parents viewpoints would be to the dominant culture here. I cringe when I think about it.

I think Bob has really made the effort to put himself out there. And probably is experiencing a lot of culture shock. I get the impression he stumbles into things that upset people by accident. Not from malice or because he's a "shitty person."

I know Mix derives a lot of meaning and joy from this community. Mainly I want Mix to be able to share this important part of himself with his Dad.

A buddhist saying: Q: "how many more times must I forgive?" A: "Always, one more time."
If we can't take the time to educate and discuss ideas with people compassionately, what fucking hope is there? Where's the opportunity for redemption and growth in that?

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